“I was wrong.
I was weak.
I am sorry.
I chose what was comfortable instead of the Hard Way this time.”
This year, the theme that I chose is “The Hard Way.” After reading a book on entitlement and experiencing a hard year in 2015, I knew that living the hard way now would set me up for greater success in my future and a way to live easier in the long run. Creating disciplines and habits now would be hard, but this had the potential to set me up for the rest of my life.
Like any new endeavor, it started off well, and though it was hard, it seemed that it would pay off because I had that vision of the long term in mind. Fast forward a couple months and a week with little sleep and I thought it could get easier soon. However, after a few more weeks with lack of sleep, I started to fade, and the desire to seek comfort grew.
As a result, I chose the easy way, I dumped responsibilities that were mine onto a friend and made her stressed and confused in the process. I chose to have the attitude of entitlement, that for some reason, because I had a “busy schedule” or “lack of sleep,” I had an excuse to not handle my fair share of the responsibility. Anti-entitlement (choosing the hard way) thinks of others first, and understands how personal actions impact other people. (Tweet that!)
By me not choosing the hard way, I made it harder for other people.
My lawyer neighbor while I was growing up had this saying on his wall and every time we would go into his office we would read: “Poor planning on your part, does not constitute for an emergency on my part.”
Yet so often, as entitled people, we think the opposite is true. We say, “Because I didn’t plan well, you will do the work for me.” We push our own responsibilities onto others.
After realizing the hurt and stress I had caused my friend, I knew what I needed to do.
Sometimes bravery is admitting we were in the wrong, exposing our vulnerabilities or weaknesses and asking for forgiveness from those we hurt. I had not chosen bravery. I had chosen comfort and what I thought seemed to be easiest at the time, yet it ended up wounding the relationship with my friend, causing the need for some repairs.
Thankfully, she forgave as soon as I apologized, and we are on good terms, but I can’t help but think what it could have been had I chosen the Hard Way to begin with.
It’s YOUR turn!
When did you choose comfort over “the hard way”?
How have your actions of entitlement affected other people?
Is there someone in your life that you need to make amends with today?
March 22, 2016 at 1:02 PM
Excellent reminder. There are certain commercials that run that really get “under my skin” by throwing around the word: “Deserve.” “You Deserve (fill in the blank)” There are many things human begins deserve, respect, common decency, a chance, and hope – the things you can’t buy. But in America we often confuse “deserve” with things/actions/other that should be earned. A very different concept.
Thank you for sharing this.
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March 22, 2016 at 1:16 PM
Exactly! I think you would enjoy the book “The Entitlement Cure” by Dr. John Townsend! That is what got me started on “the Hard Way”
March 24, 2016 at 9:28 AM
I’ll check it out. Thanks! – Ms